Accusation of Rape After Consensual Sex

Hi all, as the title says my wife accused me the other day of raping her after

sex and it's making it really difficult to look at her anymore. For context, me and my wife have

been married for 7 years and dated for 4 years prior. We've told each other everything

there is to be told, she knows that I was molested as a child by my older brother,

and I know she went though something similar. When we first started dating,

she told me her ex used to rape her and that really pissed me off, so much so that

I found his work through his Facebook, found what time he got to work, literally by ringing

them and asking, and even found what bus he took to and from work, I really was ready