Husband Wants to Attend Ex’s Funeral

Am i the asshole for not wanting my husband to go to his ex's funeral? I'll admit I'm biased

right off the bat. I couldn't stand her. I call her "his ex" to myself and

others. He called her "his friend". We're all in our early 40s.

She died recently - aneurysm. I've been with him 10 years now, but he'd known her

for 20+. The way he tells it: They were friends in college, decided to date,

got married, then realized they weren't a great couple and decided to just be friends.

All that happened years before I met him. He was clear early on that she was

"important". A couple months into dating, it came up that his friend was actually