When Success Feels Unsafe

Self-sabotage isn’t you being lazy or broken. It’s your brain trying to keep you

safe—using old rules from a time when staying small felt smarter than taking risks.

You don’t sabotage yourself because you want to fail. You do it because success changes

things. And change feels dangerous. One part of you wants growth.

Another part wants predictability—because predictability means control, and control feels

like survival. So when you get close to something good, your nervous system

hits the alarm: You procrastinate. You numb out. You start fights. You “forget.” You

suddenly “don’t care.” Not because you don’t want it— but because wanting