Why Most Feedback Backfires

Most feedback does more damage than good. Not because the intention is wrong,

but because the delivery collapses the person's confidence, shuts down their openness,

and creates resistance that lingers long after the conversation is over. You've probably

seen it. The moment you try to help, the other person tightens,

gets defensive, or withdraws altogether. Maybe you've even held back from giving feedback because

you didn't want to demoralize the other person or deal with the emotional fallout.

But when you know how to give feedback with influence, you don't trigger defensiveness.

You create alignment, clarity, and forward movement. This is where most people struggle