Charm as a Smokescreen

Third on the list, they treat charm like a smokescreen, especially fast intimacy.

You've noticed how some people don't build closeness, they rush it. They come in like

a trailer for a movie they want you to buy tickets for immediately. Big emotions,

big compliments, big, big statements. "You're different." "I've never met

anyone like you." "I feel like I've known you forever." And to someone who's been starved for

warmth, that can feel like sunlight, but you don't just feel the warmth,

you feel the speed, because healthy connection has a rhythm. It unfolds,

it breathes, it has pauses. It doesn't need to sprint past trust, like trust is optional.