Stop Performing Connection

That text message you're about to send might be pushing them further away. When you lead with

how much you've been thinking about someone, you're actually putting pressure

on them to match your energy. Real connection isn't built through constant reassurance

seeking. It's in the comfortable silence, the unexpected laugh, the moment you share

something that matters without needing validation back. Instead of telling someone you can't

wait to catch up, try actually being present when you do. Notice how they

light up when talking about their passions. Ask questions that dig deeper than surface level.

The warmth you're craving doesn't come from filling every gap with words. It comes from creating